I read with interest the Dating Secrets post...have you ever shared your two cents on how "Keep it Mean, Keep translates to online dating? Do the worlds of Match and have that same rule? Or is online dating kind of one step beyond the "3-day rule," when both parties are looking for matchmaker love?

I’ve only tried online dating once, briefly, and my experience was akin to many of those I’ve spoken to who have also ventured online: It was mixed. I spent enough time browsing profiles to garner this much info though: same rules apply.


Once we’ve taken the plunge to looking online (it has to be a better crapshoot than a bar….right?), there’s a temptation to accept our for what it is, throw up our hands and say, “ok—I give up—I’m looking for matchmaker love on the internet; please just don’t be an axe murderer.” But that’s totally silly, and there’s no reason to think you (and he) can’t spit as much game, and play with intrigue, as if you were flirting in person.

There’s never a reason to appear clingy, desperate, or over-eager; in fact, if you’re looking online internet personals the situation is so much more controlled that there is, in fact, no excuse for any of the above.

Without being a jerk about it, being a little distant will always be a little sexy. You should time your emails, your responses, your winks, chats and what have you, in a way that leaves him guessing, and leaves you feeling in control (if he’s any good at this, he’ll be doing the same).
There are 2 clear advantages to “keeping it mean” with online dating:


1. It gives you that much more time to figure out what the guy’s all about; sometimes adult dating guys only show their true colors when the screws get tightened.

2. It’s that much more time you get to live if he is indeed an axe murderer.

Do you change your flirting style online? Have you ever tried online dating?

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